Relationships After Having Kids

Starting a family is an amazing experience, but I’d be lying if I said it was easy on your relationship. Navigating a marriage and a partnership has its ups and downs, that’s natural. But then you throw in some sleep deprivation and the pressure that comes with keeping tiny humans alive, and you have a recipe for disaster. Tired and grumpy it is very easy for even the best partnerships to breakdown. Babies and toddlers are exhausting. Worth it, absolutely, but 100% exhausting. They need a level of selflessness that you didn’t even know was possible, and that of course leaves very little for you or anyone else. This means less time for your own development and activities, which leaves you less refreshed (and lets be honest) less interesting. The last time I read a book cover to cover… pre-kids. The last time I entered into a running event… pre-kids. Is this season short, yes. Will it pass, yes. Is it hard, yes. I think, carving out time for you and your partner in the baby-toddler phase takes dedication. It takes a conscious effort to keep the romance alive. That spontaneity that came so easily pre-kids is a lot harder in this short season. But I truly believe, and thankfully so does my husband, that the health of our relationship has a direct impact on our children. Enter the babysitter. My husband works very long hours. I work predominantly at night around Mummy duties. If we don’t make time for date nights, we literally won’t see each other all day. Whether in the house or out on the town, date nights, right now are the cornerstone of the romantic success of our relationship. No its not spontaneous. That can come again in time. Its intentional. No babysitter, okay then lest get creative at home.Here you will find as much inspiration as I can pass on to help you keep the romantic fires burning while raising babies.